Don't Die a Copy of Someone Else

This is an important message that I want to spread and that I think everyone needs to hear.

Blocking out what people think of you and not caring about what they think of you is the best way to live your life. It seems that these days, a lot of us want to be so called “popular”. We see the people in our classes, they seem to have it all, the expensive clothes, the attention, they are always going out, they have a relationship, they seem so ‘happy’ and you might want to be like them, you might want to fit in. Sometimes you feel down and tell yourself ‘I am not enough’, and you question why you can’t fit in and why everyone doesn’t like you, and why you feel so terribly lonely. But I am here to tell you that popularity does not give you real happiness, it puts pressure on you, and you don’t always know who your real friends are. The point is you are more than enough, you were born with something so special that no one can imitate, raw and true originality that others wish they had.

You are more than what people think of you, don’t waste your life chasing to be like someone else, don’t die a copy. You were born to stand out, stop trying to throw that away by trying to fit in. Seriously popularity does not mean quality. And I know, I understand that today we unfortunately live in a society where people are loved for being their fake selves and others are judged for being unique and expressing who they are. And you have to be you and shine like you are supposed to, be genuine, be real. It is better to be hated for who you are then liked and praised for who you are not.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t fit in. So, what if you aren’t perfect? Do you know how diamond experts differentiate between which diamonds are worthless and which aren’t? The diamonds that are fake have a perfect shape whereas the diamonds that are real and worthy some have flaws and imperfections. Just like fake people in this world appear perfect, but real people make actual mistakes and have flaws. The truth is that cool people don’t worry about being popular or cool. But the people that do care about that are the people who go home, not happy at all with who they really are. Popularity is when others like you, but true happiness is when you love yourself.

Sometimes the universe has to shield you from the things that you want. You not being popular allows us to really work on ourselves and be the best people we can be. And when you do that everything changes, it is like the room has been ridden of its darkness and light has illuminated it fully. And when you have the courage and confidence to be you, you love yourself for you and block out other’s thoughts, people will start coming to you. You will realise that you are enough already and that you don’t need others praise and opinions as validation of yourself. Nobody has been through your life or can preach your story, so hold your head up and stop hiding your true colours and shine underneath the shade. Most importantly don’t trade your dignity for silly thing called ‘popularity’.

You may not be popular at this moment in time, but you will be great one day, you will be worth knowing. So, work on you and forget about what people think because most people don’t think. They will judge you based on someone else’s opinion of you. Cut these people out of your life completely, they don’t deserve to be anywhere near it, they are dimming your light. Focus on you. I want to tell you that right now it might be hard to realise that in 5 years none of this popularity business is going to matter to anyone, especially you. Popularity ends when school ends. But the person that you become, and build will last the entirety of the rest of your life. So, don’t let them write you own story. If you carry on worrying about what others think of you. You will forever be their slave. And you are so much more than that. I know it.

So never forget the person that you are, because it is that living being inside of you that makes you absolutely incredible.